Online Dating, Strange Resume Questions, and Online Writing

Dear Brian,
Are there guys using online dating who can’t stop even though they found a great girl?

It’s been a long year online dating, I met some great guys. When we start dating few months in I still see that they are active on their account. (yes I did create an account just to check). If they are full time dating me and they say they are happy with how things are going why are they doing this?? I’m asking here because when I confront them they aren’t really honest and close the disscusion saying I’m nosy etc. What should I do? This happened many times already and I’m out of resources to face this.
Any guy that’s not open and honest is a liar. You shouldn’t date anyone who would lie to you like that.

I’m a whistleblower, pirate, and occasionally do a favor for a hacker. Protecting my online privacy is extremely important to me.

However, I’ll always let any of my family/friends use my phone or computer. I’ll leave all my accounts signed in too, because I trust these people. They may read a few things or even post something on my account as a joke, but it’s no problem – it’s not done out of spite.

Your instincts are right – trust them. If someone is hiding something from you, there’s a reason.

To explore a few more perspectives though, you’ve clearly considered that you may be doing something to cause this, and that’s entirely possible. The more lying guys you meet, the easier it is to mistrust all men. I always hate when I can tell someone doesn’t trust me based on something a previous guy did. My thought process was always, “I didn’t do anything, so don’t take it out on me.”

Also, are you sure the relationship is where you think it is? If you haven’t discussed being exclusive, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve been dating. You can’t just keep showing up until they give in. Talk. Communicate.

Regardless of what happens, focus on yourself and what makes you happy. If you’re heading in a direction in life you don’t like, stop wasting your time. The guy is never going to end it as long as you’re spreading your legs for him and not creating waves. You could end up being a side chick forever if you don’t take control of your own life.

Dear Brian,
Is the badge “most viewed writer” on Quora, a résumé-worthy item?

Resumes are about as worthwhile as strange Internet titles.

I couldn’t even tell you the last time I used my resume, and I hate the word since I can’t just type it out without having to put the stupid acute accents.

When I worked in middle management, I always appreciated the oddities on resumes. It shows character. If you’re just looking for any job, don’t list it, but if you want a litmus test to find out how stuffy the company you’re applying at is, that’s a great way.

It’s an ice breaker.

By the time you got to me, however, your resume hardly mattered. Most corporations have some sort of software and third party vendor screening applicants.

You enter your resume, and the data is extracted into fields so a computer can determine your qualifications. At that point you go through a phone interview with the screener.

Only once you’ve made it past all that would you ever actually interview with me, who was actually making the decision on whether or not you’ll be hired.

Everyone’s resume looks essentially the same, and it’s quite boring constantly reading people pumping themselves up. Most of the time, I’d barely glance at it, and that would happen right in front of you.

Why?

We had a standardized set of interview questions we were forced to ask, and my decision would be based entirely off my impression of you from that interview.

Are you able to perform the job functions?
Willing to work overtime when necessary?
Can you overcome obstacles without my help?
Do you have experience and/or education?

Those factors mattered, along with you being a personality fit for my team. Other than that, everyone is boring me until I see something strange like “Quora Most Viewed Writer” and now can’t wait to hear your explanation of that one…

Dear Brian,
Where can a journalist or online writer write besides Huffington post?

It depends on what kind of journalism you’re looking to write.

Here’s a list of American magazines: List of United States magazines

Here’s a list of American newspapers: List of newspapers in the United States

Each of these outlets will have a website you can write for as well. With any media company, you can find a listing of the people who work there on the masthead. Also search their website for a “Contact,” “Submissions,” or “Contributors” section. This is where you’ll find out what contact methods they prefer.

Most email addresses at these sites follow a simple formula offirst.lastname@publication.com, though you’ll see variations, such as FirstnameLastname, FirstInitialLastName, etc., along with @publisher instead of publication name.

There are also plenty of sites (Mashable, Buzzfeed, Lifehack, Jezebel, etc.) that don’t have a magazine or newpaper and focus on online media. Here are some citizen journalism sites as well: List of citizen journalism websites

With all that said, if you’re wanting to get into journalism, I would highly recommend creating your own blog on Blogspot or WordPress. You can publish news on these sites and have it go viral just as well as any other site if the content is good enough, plus you’ll build your personal brand which will help in the long term.

Hope this helps.

Brian Penny whistleblower Huffington post Dr dre EminemBrian Penny is a former Business Analyst and Operations Manager at Bank of America turned whistleblower, troll, and freelance writer. His work has appeared in High Times, Hardcore Droid, Fast Company, Lifehack, and Main Street.

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Brian Penny is a former Business Analyst and Operations Manager at Bank of America turned whistleblower, troll, and freelance writer.

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