Aziz Ansari Did Nothing Wrong and Accusing Him Hurts Feminism

Things are getting out of hand these days. While President Trump pushes the boundaries of political correctness one direction, there’s a movement in the media to push it too far the other way.

If you haven’t read it yet, Aziz Ansari was pulled into the Hollywood Witch Hunt by a sordid report on I read the report in its entirety, and it really rubs me the wrong way.

After having his name dragged through the mud all weekend, Ansari finally responded in a statement that he was “surprised and concerned.” He’s far from the only one.

While 2017 did have its fair share of legitimate sexual harassment and sexual assault claims, this latest claim is ridiculous. In fact, it’s doing more to harm legitimate feminism than help.

Entitled Snowflakes Are What’s Wrong With This World

I want to preface this by saying many of the sexual assault and sexual harassment cases in the media are legitimate. Harvey Weinstein is a sexual predator. Bill Cosby is. Donald Trump is. I’m not debating these facts.

The problem I have is that a misunderstanding in how legitimate journalism works has gotten the public stirred up and carrying torches and pitchforks. Aziz Ansari did not commit any crimes, break any laws, nor even do anything unethical.

Yet some people are taking this opportunity to jump on a soapbox and carry things way too far. If anything, the woman who reported this claim committed a much more egregious crime than Ansari.

This pic is from a drawn-out Facebook conversation I had earlier today about the Ansari topic. I blocked out the special entitled snowflake’s name, but her outspoken and ignorant opinion can’t be ignored.

Because the takedown article was written well, it convinced a lot of these sheep to jump on a #metoo high horse and try to abuse the power society is trying to give them.

Chasing Celebrities for Fame by Association

Here are some of the holes in this anonymous woman, Grace’s story that lead a large portion of the population to simply blow this off.

Let’s start with how they met.

Even by Grace’s account, she approached Ansari. She did so while she was on a date. If a man did this, he would be labeled an asshole, but this is far from the only thing this gold-digging fame whore does wrong.

She is clearly a fame whore. She didn’t hit on some random Indian guy – she hit on TV and movie star Aziz Ansari. Had he not been famous, she most certainly would not have talked to him. She had stars in her eyes and it made her feel special to be (in her mind) a celebrity by proximity.

Here’s more of her admitting to fame-whoring.

So after hitting on Ansari, they go on a date. They go to dinner, and then she agrees to go home with him.

Here’s her problematic account in which she refuses to accept responsibility for her whorish actions.

Now I don’t know if you’ve ever tried taking a woman’s jeans off, but it’s a difficult feat when she’s helping you. It’s impossible without her participating.

Grace makes it sound in this sordid story that Ansari stripped her naked and refuses to take any accountability. There’s no way anybody believes this gold-digging whore’s account that her pants just magically came off.

And if they did, why was she still there?

I’ve been on hundreds of dates, and anytime a woman wasn’t into me during dinner, they simply declined to go home with me.

But that’s not what this gold-digging fame whore did. She was dating a celebrity, and that made her feel important. If Ansari wasn’t famous, she would never have gone home with him. But he’s a rich and famous comedian who lives in Taylor Swift’s building, so this bitch wanted to keep going.

Oh, and does she ever keep going.

At this point, Grace is now admitting to sucking Ansari’s dick. Of course, it’s somehow his fault that she was naked and sucked his dick. In fact, even by her account, he asked her to do it, and she did.

That is the very definition of consent. It doesn’t get any more clear than that. She goes on to discuss non-verbal clues he should have picked up, but she already admits that he asked her to blow him and she did.

Still, Ansari has done nothing wrong.

This gold-digging fame whore clearly felt like a whore after being so easy. But that’s not rape. That’s not sexual assault. That’s two consensual adults making adult decisions to consent in adult behavior. That’s not Ansari’s fault. He deserves a high five. He was a perfect gentleman.

Then this slut woke up to her whorish behavior and pumped the brakes.

At this point, they finally got dressed again. Ansari didn’t force himself on her. He got dressed like a man. And instead of leaving like a sane adult who’s not a gold-digging fame whore, this woman stayed.

And because she stayed, Ansari, who was clearly still in the mood, continued to try making out with her.

And when it became clear that she just wasn’t into it, Ansari was a gentleman and insisted on ordering her an Uber.

He paid for her ride home and she left.

That’s it. That’s the end of the story. Ansari and this Grace woman had one date, and it ended.

She didn’t like herself for her own personal choice of being so slutty on the first date, and Ansari was a perfect gentleman. I don’t think she’s a slut for that – but she clearly regrets her actions.

There was no rape.

There was no sexual assault.

There was no crime committed. There’s no reason this should be news at all.

Some random nobody had a date with Aziz Ansari. She hoped to suck some wealth and fame out of his dick then thought better of it.

He wanted to have sex, she didn’t, so they didn’t.

It’s a non-story, and yet people are still talking about it. Ansari had to give a public statement. What was nothing more than a bad date is being blown out of proportion.

It’s quite clear this woman wanted to take Ansari down. She saw him win a Golden Globe, and his success disgusted her. She went from starstruck fame whore to vindictive hater, and that’s the problem. That’s what’s ruining feminism.

There’s no denying women can have a tough road in their careers. There’s no denying women are sexually harassed or assaulted on a daily basis. But that was not the case here.

What happened here wasn’t a Harvey Weinstein coercing actresses to have sex with him for a part in a movie. It wasn’t a Louis C.K. masturbating in front of random people at work. It wasn’t Bill Cosby drugging someone’s drink.

Ansari initially wanted no part of this woman and was dismissive. But she kept flirting with him until he relented. When he did, this gold-digging fame whore found out he wasn’t the character he plays on TV. She was disappointed in him for being a normal person and herself for being a slut.

Then “Grace” decided to try to ruin Ansari’s career. She publicly embarrassed him, taking no accountability for any of her choices as a consenting adult.

Ansari did nothing wrong, but he’s being hunted down like a witch. He didn’t expose himself to someone random in public. They were on a date. She allowed him to remove her clothes. She let him eat her out and she willingly sucked him off after he verbally asked.

That’s called consent. He asked for consent and got it. Then, when she suddenly changed her mind, he was confused for a minute. When he finally got the point, he got her a car.

Aziz Ansari is a hero and acted legally, morally, and ethically correct. He was a complete gentleman in the circumstances this gold-digging fame whore put him in.

If anybody is in the wrong, it’s the Grace woman and the journalist who framed the story to sound as though he did anything wrong.

That article was an obvious takedown piece. Grace (may well have called her “Chastity” or “Angel”) pursued Ansari while on a date with another man. That’s a whorrible thing to do. Katie Way clearly was looking to gain notoriety for her article the way Jodi Kantor and Megan Twohey at the NY Times did for the Weinstein article. Both were clearly looking to take Ansari down.

To be clear, a woman has a right to choose whether or not to have sex at any point. A woman isn’t a slut for sleeping with a guy after any amount of time. What makes Grace a fame whore is that she pursued Ansari relentlessly until he gave in. She did it because he’s a celebrity, and when she didn’t get her way, she attempted to frame him as a sexual predator.

If Aziz Ansari weren’t a celebrity, would Grace have written this story in a letter to his parents, friends, and boss? No – she wouldn’t have even been trying to date him.

Ansari did the right thing. These vindictive bitches didn’t.

And that’s why they’re ruining feminism for everyone else.


Dr. Brian Penny is a former Business Analyst and Operations Manager at Bank of America turned whistleblower, troll, and freelance writer. You can find his work in Cracked, High Times, HuffPost, Lifewire, Forbes, Fast Company, and dozens of other places, although much of it is no longer under his name. Dr. Penny loves annoying fake media.

6 thoughts on “Aziz Ansari Did Nothing Wrong and Accusing Him Hurts Feminism

  • August 9 at 11:19 am

    You know, your argument would be a lot more convincing if you didn’t keep calling Grace a ‘gold chasing whore.’ Really undercuts the claimed objectivity of your piece. I even came into this with a bias favoring Aziz… but this was ridiculously partisan hack writing.

  • January 27 at 9:10 pm

    Coercion doesn’t necessarily have to be as obvious as threats or violence. It can be a man making a woman feel like “you owe me this” or using some other tactic to make them feel bad for saying no. It happens more commonly than any outright use of threats or violence.

    I don’t think Grace in the story is completely innocent. She’s also at fault for not being a mature, responsible adult. But Ansari is also no hero in this situation. He acted like a pushy, inconsiderate 18 year old instead of a 34 year old man whose career is built on the nuances of dating and feminism.

    • January 27 at 9:14 pm

      Actually the literal dictionary definition absolutely does mean that coercion has to involve a threat. Here’s a link to for your reference: He didn’t in any way do anything wrong. He didn’t do anything that in any way aligns with the dictionary definition of the word coercion. He tried to convince her. Nothing wrong with that. She hunted him down while on a date. She got naked and blew him. She wanted to slow down. He complied. She blew him again. She sucked his dick twice. Then, after he made it clear that he didn’t want a relationship with some random stan, she regretted her decision. He’s not at at fault for anything in any way. When she made it clear she didn’t want to have sex, he bought her cab home. He is a hero and a gentleman, and you’re misinterpreting the dictionary definition of a word.

    • January 27 at 9:16 pm

      I 100% agree that they shouldn’t be dating each other. They shouldn’t be in a relationship. They had a miscommunication. But you absolutely can not blame a man in hindsight for decisions you willingly make. She regretted her decisions she made as an adult. Him trying to convince her to have sex doesn’t make him anti-feminist. It doesn’t make him a bad person. It doesn’t mean he did anything except try to get what he wants. She wanted a relationship. He wanted sex. It’s unjust to slut shame him.

  • January 27 at 6:26 pm

    He didn’t use threats or violence, so there was no coercion, and he had every reason to be zealous. Even after she clearly said no, she gave him head again while they were on the couch. Her actions don’t match her words, and it sounds more like a story about a woman regretting her actions than a man doing anything wrong. Either they’re both wrong or they’re both consenting adults with every right to do what they wanted. There’s no possibility of him being in any way wrong while she’s completely innocent. None. End of story.

  • January 27 at 12:14 pm

    I agree with you that I don’t think Ansari committed any kind of sexual assault. But he wasn’t some gentleman or hero, either. After the woman clearly said ‘no’ to sex with him, he shouldn’t have stuck his fingers down her throat or tried to undo her pants again. He didn’t treat her with a single ounce of respect. He came across as zealous at best, coercive at worst. I think the debate here isn’t whether he’s some kind of sexual predator, it’s that we need to have higher standards when it comes to “affirmative consent”.


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